{"id":16910,"date":"2021-11-19T19:30:05","date_gmt":"2021-11-19T19:30:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/?post_type=cde-knowledge-base&#038;p=16910"},"modified":"2026-02-27T07:31:40","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T12:31:40","slug":"take-action_healthy_sexuality","status":"publish","type":"cde-knowledge-base","link":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/en\/knowledge-base\/our-community-says-no-mas\/take-action_healthy_sexuality\/","title":{"rendered":"Take action: Healthy sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"16910\" class=\"elementor elementor-16910 elementor-10358\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-32bda9d3 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"32bda9d3\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7f20636e\" data-id=\"7f20636e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5582568d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5582568d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><strong>Take action &#8211; Health sexuality<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talking to your children about sex can help prevent sexual abuse because they will be better equipped to understand setting boundaries and respecting those boundaries in themselves and others. Researchers say that conversations about sexuality also lead to less risky sexual behavior, should teenagers choose to engage in sex. Now that you\u2019re prepared to talk with your kids, take action by making sure you know how you\u2019ll approach the conversations as you guide them into the topics.<\/span><\/p><h4><b>Educate yourself<\/b><\/h4><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In order to have honest and insightful conversations with your children about healthy sexuality, first educate yourself so you can answer appropriately the inevitable string of questions they will have.<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn about the various methods for pregnancy prevention and their respective rate of effectiveness<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn how STDs are transmitted, how to detect them, and how to prevent them<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn more about how to have a healthy relationship with one\u2019s own body and sexuality in a way that reflects your values.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s worth it to take the time to learn about the different aspects of healthy sexuality so that your children do not walk away with myths or misinformation. See this page for resources on how to further your personal education.<\/span><\/p><h4><b>Share your knowledge\u00a0<\/b><\/h4><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about ways to impart your knowledge, formally or informally. Prepare yourself to recognize seemingly innocuous moments that open the door to educate your children about healthy sexuality. For example, if your child comes home from school and tells you that school officials made some classmates change their clothes because their attires were inappropriate, you can ask for your child\u2019s thoughts about the school officials\u2019 actions, and how those actions tie to a person\u2019s sexuality.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alternatively, you can talk with your children about healthy sexuality through \u201cformal\u201d time set aside to sit down and discuss it. Some parents find it easier to go into the conversation when both they and their children are expecting what the conversation will entail.<\/span><\/p><h4><b>Take a step<\/b><\/h4><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you were to consider running a marathon, you would first think about what you need to do \u2013 what kind of training schedule you will follow, what type of shoes will maximize your speed, how you will track progress, and how you will hold yourself accountable to accomplish your goal. The same concept applies when you prepare to talk with your children about healthy sexuality.\u00a0 For example, before you explain to your daughter the importance of scheduling an appointment each year with a gynecologist, you should first talk with her about her vagina. Taking the first step in conversations about healthy sexuality may mean practicing in the mirror or talking to your partner about it. The point is simply taking that first step.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take the first step: Be prepared to answer these questions in the following bystander scenarios, developed by <\/span><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/nomore.org\/\">NO MORE<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><h4><strong>Your friend tells you that he\/she thinks they were raped. What do you do?<\/strong><\/h4><p>The support survivors of sexual assault receive from the people they love and trust can be invaluable to their ability to cope with and heal from sexual assault. Following are some helpful suggestions (via The Rape Crisis Center).<\/p><h5><b>Listen<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Allow your friend to talk about what happened and control the direction of the conversation. Do not ask a lot of questions or focus on the attack itself, but rather on how he or she is handling the trauma.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Listen without giving advice or trying to \u201cfix\u201d things<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we care for someone, we often try to give advice, solve their problems or fix things for them. While it comes from a place of caring, our instinct to try to problem-solve or give advice can sometimes leave a survivor feeling as though their emotions are being dismissed. Sometimes, the issues a survivor is having will not feel fixable to them or to you, and it\u2019s much more helpful to just be there to listen to whatever a survivor wants to share with you.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Let the survivor have control<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Allow survivors to make decisions for themselves and assure them that their decisions are supported. You don\u2019t have to agree with their decisions but it is important to give them the authority to decide how they will handle things.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Believe<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important that the survivor knows you believe what happened.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Normalize a survivor\u2019s feelings<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every survivor will react to their experience differently. Survivors may experience many upsetting, conflicting, confusing feelings after an assault. Survivors often re-experience the event through flashbacks, may feel on-edge all the time, or may be prone to sudden outbursts, which can feel especially upsetting and leave a survivor feeling even more disempowered. Some survivors may blame themselves for and feel frustrated by these intense feelings, and it\u2019s important to remind a survivor these feelings and responses are out of their control and are the body\u2019s way of responding to a traumatic event. Something helpful you could say would be, \u201cYou are having a normal response to an abnormal situation.\u201d<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Provide unconditional support<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It will help your friend to hear that they are not to blame for the assault. Regardless of an individual\u2019s choices prior to the attack, no one ever asks to be or deserves to be raped or sexually assaulted.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Be patient<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing takes time, and every survivor copes with trauma differently. Don\u2019t pressure or rush your friend to be \u201cnormal\u201d or to \u201cjust move on.\u201d Instead, reassure your friend that support will be available throughout the healing process, however long it may take.<\/span><\/p><h5><b>Let the survivor know that help is available<\/b><\/h5><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they are interested and open to receiving assistance, tell them about the National Sexual Assault Hotline, or offer to help find local services for them.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some helpful statements include:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I believe you.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is not your fault.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I am so sorry that this happened.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You did not deserve this.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I am happy that you are safe and that you are here to talk with me.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thank you for being brave\/comfortable enough to talk with me.<\/span><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can I help you right now?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><h4><b>Supporting a survivor<\/b><\/h4><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting a survivor can feel challenging for a number of reasons: you may be worried about upsetting the survivor, you may have other personal experience with this issue, or you may feel you don\u2019t know what to say at all. The most important things you can do for a survivor are to listen, validate, ask how you can help, know where to refer a survivor for further help, listen without judgment, and care for yourself.<\/span><\/p><h4><b>Make sure you are getting the support you need<\/b><\/h4><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watching a friend or loved one work through the aftermath of a sexual assault can be an extremely difficult and painful experience. Common feelings of those supporting someone who has been assaulted include helplessness, frustration, anger and guilt. It can be helpful to talk with someone other than the survivor about these feelings.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You understandably may be experiencing discomfort, shock or uncertainty, and have a lot of questions. To respect the survivor\u2019s discomfort and give yourself the space you need to process your own feelings, wait until you\u2019re away from the survivor and call the National Sexual Assault Hotline for free, confidential support.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-22cb2e8 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"22cb2e8\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ca88b01\" data-id=\"ca88b01\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3957cd5 tool-kit-accordian elementor-widget elementor-widget-accordion\" data-id=\"3957cd5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"accordion.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 id=\"elementor-tab-title-6011\" class=\"elementor-tab-title\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"button\" aria-controls=\"elementor-tab-content-6011\" aria-expanded=\"false\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon elementor-accordion-icon-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-closed\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-opened\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-accordion-title\" tabindex=\"0\">Your male friend tells you that he had an unwanted sexual experience when he was younger with someone he looked up to. He questions if it was sexual assault because he was sexually aroused during the interaction. What do you do?<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h5>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-tab-content-6011\" class=\"elementor-tab-content elementor-clearfix\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"elementor-tab-title-6011\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some possible options (depending on your comfort and his openness to further discussion) include:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Offer encouragement for his willingness to consider a challenging question.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen neutrally. Ask him what factors make him think it might have been abusive. Avoid defining what happened for him.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Explore whether he feels there was a power imbalance in the relationship.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Offer to help him find resources to learn more about unwanted and abusive sexual experiences for males and why it might be difficult, but important for a man to address it.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do a safety check. See if he has healthy strategies to manage negative feelings when he starts thinking about this question. If not, help him find a hotline or local crisis service should he start to feel overwhelmed.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-722e806 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"722e806\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c46abc7\" data-id=\"c46abc7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ae0edbc tool-kit-accordian elementor-widget elementor-widget-accordion\" data-id=\"ae0edbc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"accordion.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 id=\"elementor-tab-title-1821\" class=\"elementor-tab-title\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"button\" aria-controls=\"elementor-tab-content-1821\" aria-expanded=\"false\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon elementor-accordion-icon-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-closed\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-opened\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-accordion-title\" tabindex=\"0\">You are in the lunchroom with your friends and a group of students nearby start making sexual gestures and comments to one of your friends that\u2019s sitting with you. Though trying to ignore the comments, you see that your friend is upset. What do you do?<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h5>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-tab-content-1821\" class=\"elementor-tab-content elementor-clearfix\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"elementor-tab-title-1821\"><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can tell the group making the comments to stop their sexually harassing behavior, or ask them to imagine how they\u2019d feel if someone made that comment about one of their family members or someone else they cared about.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You could ask your friend if they want to leave and talk to a teacher or counselor.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever you choose in the moment, you should tell an authority figure about the harassment and ask them to intervene. While it\u2019s not physical violence, these types of harassing behaviors help foster an environment that condones domestic and sexual violence in our society.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0f048b8 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"0f048b8\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-45dfc81\" data-id=\"45dfc81\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e9b5b70 tool-kit-accordian elementor-widget elementor-widget-accordion\" data-id=\"e9b5b70\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"accordion.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 id=\"elementor-tab-title-2451\" class=\"elementor-tab-title\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"button\" aria-controls=\"elementor-tab-content-2451\" aria-expanded=\"false\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon elementor-accordion-icon-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-closed\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-opened\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-accordion-title\" tabindex=\"0\">A co-worker starts talking about a recent high-profile rape or domestic violence case and blames the victim for what happened. What do you do?<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h5>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-tab-content-2451\" class=\"elementor-tab-content elementor-clearfix\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"elementor-tab-title-2451\"><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell them that regardless of what they think happened that it\u2019s never the victim\u2019s fault.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give them resources that explain the realities of domestic and sexual violence.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Contact your human resources representative or immediate supervisor and ask that the staff receive training on these issues.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e225312 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"e225312\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ee67e6d\" data-id=\"ee67e6d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-85702b7 tool-kit-accordian elementor-widget elementor-widget-accordion\" data-id=\"85702b7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"accordion.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 id=\"elementor-tab-title-1391\" class=\"elementor-tab-title\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"button\" aria-controls=\"elementor-tab-content-1391\" aria-expanded=\"false\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon elementor-accordion-icon-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-closed\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-opened\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-accordion-title\" tabindex=\"0\">A teen in your life tells you their boy\/girlfriend is hurting them, harassing them and\/or forcing them into sexual situations. What do you do?<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h5>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-tab-content-1391\" class=\"elementor-tab-content elementor-clearfix\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"elementor-tab-title-1391\"><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Assure the person that what is happening to them is not right, it\u2019s not their fault and everyone deserves a healthy, respectful relationship.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Offer to help them look for local <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/nomore.org\/need-immediate-help\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resources<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to keep them safe.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask them if there is an adult at their school, like a teacher, counselor or principal or a parent they can talk with to help them stay safe.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check in with them to see if they are safe and offer to help them involve individuals or resources to help make the abuse stop.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d7b2c37 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"d7b2c37\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-9187ba3\" data-id=\"9187ba3\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9fd3c6a tool-kit-accordian elementor-widget elementor-widget-accordion\" data-id=\"9fd3c6a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"accordion.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-accordion-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 id=\"elementor-tab-title-1671\" class=\"elementor-tab-title\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"button\" aria-controls=\"elementor-tab-content-1671\" aria-expanded=\"false\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon elementor-accordion-icon-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-closed\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-accordion-icon-opened\"><i class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-accordion-title\" tabindex=\"0\">The guys on your team are constantly making lewd, rude or degrading comments about women and girls or calling each other names that imply they are \u201cweak like girls.<br>\u201d What do you do?<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h5>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-tab-content-1671\" class=\"elementor-tab-content elementor-clearfix\" data-tab=\"1\" role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"elementor-tab-title-1671\"><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Speak up that their comments are degrading to their teammates and to women in general and it\u2019s not cool with you.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to teammates individually about the situation and ask that they not join in those behaviors.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 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