{"id":9365,"date":"2021-09-14T17:10:07","date_gmt":"2021-09-14T17:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/?post_type=cde-knowledge-base&#038;p=9365"},"modified":"2025-08-27T09:44:35","modified_gmt":"2025-08-27T14:44:35","slug":"self-reflect","status":"publish","type":"cde-knowledge-base","link":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/en\/knowledge-base\/te-invito\/self-reflect\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-reflect"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"9365\" class=\"elementor elementor-9365 elementor-10640\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-68f30a4 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"68f30a4\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7ffd1367\" data-id=\"7ffd1367\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7378c547 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7378c547\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><strong>Self reflect\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This video, by Juan Carlos Are\u00e1n, former director of the National Latin@ Network, explores dimensions of traditional masculinity that contribute to the ongoing problem of violence within the family and intimate relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><iframe title=\"Traditional Masculinity\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_2HaU7lCeqM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is very important that as you take action, you also take time to reflect about your own life experience. Most men are trained to be in control of situations and to \u201cfix\u201d things, but in the case of violence against women, it is essential that you ask yourself some questions first. For instance:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I was growing up, what did I learn about how to be a man?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What did I learn about how to treat girls and women?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How have those beliefs changed over the years?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How has traditional masculinity affected me and my loved ones?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What have I done to get away from the dangers of traditional masculinity?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I able to express my feelings freely when it\u2019s safe and appropriate?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I willing to follow the lead of women and other men who have worked on these efforts for a long time? Am I willing to really listen to them?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have I ever used any kind of abuse and violence against women (including emotional, financial, sexual and physical)? If so, what have I done to change my behaviors and be accountable to the people I\u2019ve hurt?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do I want to be involved in efforts to end violence against women?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are not easy questions to answer for any man and you might not be able to answer all of them right now, but as you get more involved in helping prevent violence against women, you will want to come back to these and other questions about masculinity. It is not a matter of blame or shame, but the great majority of men \u2013not only Latinos, but men all over the world- are taught to bury their feelings, assert control and use violence if necessary.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ready to take action? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/en\/knowledge-base\/our-community-says-no-mas\/pledges\/\"><b>Take the pledge<\/b><\/a>\u00a0&#8211;\u00a0<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stand with others to create a world free from domestic violence by grounding our relationships (of all kinds) in love, respect and understanding.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can also learn more by watching the video above and checking out the other resources below.<\/span><\/p><h4>Additional resources<\/h4><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spanish language video made by youth in Panama: <\/span><b><a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Ot9F8bpjqI0\">Pela\u00b4os y pela\u00b4as te cuentan la violencia de g\u00e9nero<\/a> <\/b><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/promundoglobal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Programs-for-Men-who-Have-Used-Violence-Against-Women.pdf\"><b>How can a re-examination of masculinity help stop violence against women<\/b><\/a> by Oswaldo Montoya Teller\u00eda (the full book in Spanish is also available for <a href=\"http:\/\/www.scribd.com\/doc\/173174535\/Nadando-Contra-La-Corriente\"><b>download<\/b><\/a>.)<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-05c151a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"05c151a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 200;\">Last updated 2021<\/span><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self reflect\u00a0 This video, by Juan Carlos Are\u00e1n, former director of the National Latin@ Network, explores dimensions of traditional masculinity that contribute to the ongoing problem of violence within the family and intimate relationships. 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