{"id":9370,"date":"2021-09-14T17:14:24","date_gmt":"2021-09-14T17:14:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/?post_type=cde-knowledge-base&#038;p=9370"},"modified":"2025-08-27T09:45:54","modified_gmt":"2025-08-27T14:45:54","slug":"share-your-own-story","status":"publish","type":"cde-knowledge-base","link":"https:\/\/esperanzaunited.org\/en\/knowledge-base\/te-invito\/share-your-own-story\/","title":{"rendered":"Share your own story"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"9370\" class=\"elementor elementor-9370 elementor-10645\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-29844a9b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"29844a9b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1467f698\" data-id=\"1467f698\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54664fb4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"54664fb4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><strong>Share your own story\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By a recent estimate, more than 15 million children are exposed to domestic violence in their homes in the US. Many others are direct victims of child abuse. Statistically, half of these children are male. That means that there are millions of men in the US (and around the world) who have been traumatized by the terror of violence. A percentage of these men become perpetrators themselves, but the majority does not. Even though men and boys are taught not to share stories of vulnerability and to hide most of their feelings, it is very important that men who have witnessed or suffered violence speak up. As more men step forward with their stories, other men will follow their lead. This is how a movement is created and who would be better at fighting against violence than survivors of direct and indirect abuse.<\/span><\/p><h4>Some things you can do<\/h4><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before sharing your story, it can be helpful to embark in a journey of self-reflection and healing. Most people who have been exposed to violence benefit from receiving help and support from someone trained in understanding the impact of trauma. This could be a trusted person from the community, like a pastor, or it could be someone who works as a counselor or therapist.\u00a0 As part of receiving support, it is important to develop an emotional safety plan, in case past trauma gets stimulated by present circumstances.\u00a0 It can be painful and difficult to deal with violence that was witnessed or experienced in our lives, and it\u2019s helpful to have support to be able to deal with the past and live well in the present.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel safe, share with your close friends part of your story. It might help them understand the gravity of the problem. Also, if you decide to interrupt their inappropriate jokes or comments, there is nothing more powerful than to tell a first-person story. For instance, you can say, \u201cthis is the way my father treated my mother and it is painful for me to hear.\u201d<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you were exposed to abuse as a child and are in a process of healing, you might want to consider sharing your story to a wider audience, either by writing it or speaking at an event. This is not an easy process and it should only be tried, if you have strong support around the process of \u201ccoming out\u201d as a survivor. The support can come from family, friends or professionals.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-05d8797 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"05d8797\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b37f60a\" data-id=\"b37f60a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-e634330 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default tf-sticky-section tf-sticky-no\" data-id=\"e634330\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;tf_sticky&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-3b15dd2\" data-id=\"3b15dd2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d5e4eb9 elementor-align-left view-more-post elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"d5e4eb9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm\" href=\"http:\/\/www.vawnet.org\/Assoc_Files_VAWnet\/NRCDV_SpeakersGuide-Survivors-Spanish.pdf\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-right\"><\/i>\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-2a11393\" data-id=\"2a11393\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-82fea7f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"82fea7f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mensstoryproject.org\"><b>Historias de hombres<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> project engages men in sharing their own stories to promote awareness in their communities. A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/vawnet.org\/material\/front-room-survivors-guide-public-speaking\"><b>speakers\u2019 guide<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has been developed by the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence in multiple languages to help support survivors who want to tell their stories.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12bd4fe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"12bd4fe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 200;\">Last updated 2021<\/span><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Share your own story\u00a0 By a recent estimate, more than 15 million children are exposed to domestic violence in their homes in the US. Many others are direct victims of child abuse. Statistically, half of these children are male. 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