Help a friend

Friends play an important role in an individuals’ support system.

They can provide a safe place to express feelings, fears, and hope.

What you can say

  • I believe you.
  • You are not alone.
  • No one deserves to be abused.
  • Your safety and the safety of your children are important.
  • It is a crime.
  • I’m here for you.

What you can do

  • Be a non - judgmental listener. If your friend confides in you, it is because they trust you.
  • Help them make their own decisions — even if they are not what you’d choose. Don’t make them feel guilty about their decisions.
  • If they want to leave their home, take them in (if you both will be safe) or connect them to a crisis line or shelter.
  • Check if they are physically hurt and if so, take them to the hospital.
  • If they have children, offer to care for them for a few hours to give them some time.
  • Give them our number: 651.772.1611 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.787.7233.
  • If you think your friend may be suicidal, get help. Contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800.273.8255) or the RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network – 800.656.4673).

For more information on how to help a friend or coworker, visit this resource from the National Domestic Violence Hotline (not available in Spanish).

For more information onsupporting individuals from the LGBTQ community who’ve experienced violence, check out these tools from the Outfront MN and NW Network of Bi, Trans, Lesbian, and Gay Survivors of Abuse (Not available in Spanish).